Boss, Professional, and Judgy People
Once upon a time, there was a Boss, Professional, and Judgy People. Well, there were a couple of more people in that group, but I shall refrain from speaking on that. This past week has been riddled with my frustration with the human race. I have zero tolerance right now and I really don’t know why.
Normally, I can look past things. I can chalk it up to immaturity, triggers that are mine that was activated by an action of another. Normally, I can regroup and then be done and okay. I try hard not to let it affect me, emotionally.
As my Lady said, “your emotions are yours. No one can control them but you. Pull yourself up by the bootstraps and move on!” That statement would make me cry every time but now, it is my mantra.
Kindness Goes a Long Way
When you follow the rules, talk to the person in charge, clear the issue and then the second in charge scares your child. Uhm…not okay. That has been one little issue that we have had. It is not okay to scare a child or to use your authority to force an issue. Especially when that issue was resolved by the said person’s boss.
Luckily, I have a friend on the inside that was able to run as a buffer for this little moment. Once she knew of the problem, she had it resolved immediately. However, I did make sure that my voice was heard as well. I opted to show kindness but to be firm in that what happened was not okay. Hopefully, this is resolved.
Mistake of One Leads to Misfortune for the Other
At a time when money is tight (as in always), this is not the time to go without a paycheck. Yet, I have for the last 3 weeks. When I was told that I would not be paid until a certain thing was done, I had a hard time using my words. My son was in the car. I was not going to let the actions of another trigger the intense emotion of anger that I was feeling. There were so many words that I wanted to use. Yet, I refrained.
In saying that, my tone was quite evident by my son and the person I was speaking to. He quickly got off the phone with me. My son never said a word. Smart on both parts. My fingers, however, did a lot of speaking when I translated the news to my husband. All I have gotten was a haphazard “sorry.”
Judginess of Others
Oh. My. Goodness. The rate people judge others is TREMENDOUS! Disgusting actually. I have to be really careful with how I phrase things. We have been unable to do some things with one of our children. It isn’t for lack of wanting to go and do. The fact of the matter is, we have been limited because of Hunter’s illness.
Unless you live in my house 24/7, you have absolutely NO idea what has gone on and happened here. I don’t feel like I have to send notice to people or go to a place and make a statement in regards to why I can’t be there. It isn’t necessary.
Recently, we have had more chance to be able to go and see my child do the thing that he enjoys. I love being there supporting him. What I don’t love is the looks I get. Completely and totally ignored by most. The comments I do get are “haven’t seen you in a long time someone else usually does this activity.” “Doesn’t (insert name) usually do this? Thought you fell off the planet.”
Then there are the sweet people who know the situation and ask how my son is doing. How I am fairing? How is Hunter? Just kindness. Those little moments, though are few and far between, touch my heart. Yet there are still the other group of people who are isolated, by the judgy people, as well. These people do not fall into the “click” of others. They found me and they were sincere in questions. That was a sweet moment too.
In the End
I have to just move on. That phrase from my Lady needs to permeate more through my body and mind. I need to quit looking to others for understanding, kindness, and maturity. It is what it is.
I need not the approval of man but to remember who I am in Christ. Trying to figure out if someone likes me, doesn’t like me, is mad at me, why they are mad at me…I’m just over it. There have been a few moments of questioning who I am as a person because of the actions/words of another. I am over it.
What a pointless way to spend my time.
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Live your life in order to bring joy and honor to our King. If You (me) continue to look to others for approval, we will constantly be in a state of depression and despair. As I tell my kids, look for the kid that no one wants to sit by or talk to. The one that is different from the others. Go say “hi” and get to know that person. Don’t point out differences. Be mindful of judging others. Most importantly, BE KIND!
As my Oak says, “In the end, if you do not see it, taste, touch it, or hear it, do not speak on an issue. Keep your mouth shut.”