Thoughts on This Week’s Story
My Thoughts on This Week’s Story are hard. Just straight-up hard. This sweet girl, when you meet her, she is SO quiet. Her face flushes when you say anything. She covers her mouth when she eats. Also, she has a hard time making eye contact and she never raises her voice. Such uncertainty. You can feel it when you are in her presence.
The first time I met her, she ran from me :). Then I made her stop and told her a few Truths about herself and she cried. Eventually, she started writing and releasing so many things that have plagued her. Lies that she started to believe were replaced with Truth. She has a long way to go.
I try to regularly check in with her, just to see how she is doing. One night, I was surprised to find that she initiated contact and reached out to me. It is so important to respond to people who are struggling with depression. I was so proud of her. That may or may not be the only time she does that, but she did it this time and I was able to “unmuddy” the waters in her head and heart.
Remember to call, text, send a card, FB message, or anything to make contact with a person that you know is struggling with depression or anxiety. It is so important for them to know that they are not a burden to you. They “want” to reach out, but something in them tells them not to do it because that would cause undue stress on another person.
You Don’t Have to Have the Answers
Know that your job is not to fix this person. It is simply to listen with a nonjudgmental ear. Let them cry on your shoulder, pray over them, love them unconditionally. Do not tell them they are crazy or threaten to go and beat up whomever they are struggling with. Honestly, do not tell them to pray more or love Jesus more and He will fix it. He will fix it, in His time and in His way.
Jesus loves her (and you) right where she (you) are! All depressed and sad…He loves you in the state that you are so just rest in that. I do tell her that because I want her to know that her moods are not dependent on Jesus’ love for her.
What I See
I see so much in her. It’s like when I look at her, I see all these bright dots. One day, the Lord will bring all the dots together and she is going to shine brighter than what they are shining now. She is in college. Also, she has a job that she has able to maintain and do well at. She has a focus in life.
I cannot even begin to describe how proud I am of her. It isn’t what she has accomplished or what she is doing. I’m proud of the fact that she breathes in and out every single day. She chooses life. Reaching out for help, learning how to communicate, making better eye contact.
She simply brings me joy. Her beginning WILL NOT dictate her present or her future!
If you or someone you know is being abused, PLEASE reach out.