Honoring My Lady
Today, I am Honoring My Lady. Everytime I see this picture, I think…my goodness she is GORGEOUS in red! That was my favorite color on her. She is smiling because it was her 81st birthday and her “boyfriend” aka Big Daddy was taking her on a fish date. I was the third wheel…cause best friends and all are great third wheels.
Oh How She Loved Bart
She loved him so much. Even during a very trying time in our marriage, where she could have just said “leave him”, she didn’t. What she did was carry my weary body into her home, place her beautiful hand on my hand and the other on my head and prayed.
Then, she picked up the phone and called a trusted, amazing human. She briefly (and discreetly) said a few things and then hung up the phone. As she looked up at me with tears in her eyes and a smile on her face, she said “its going to be okay.”
It was, but during that “it time” part, she held me accountable in my words and actions. She also had another man work with Bart and my best friend and Bart’s mentor walked with us through the mud. Our marriage is stronger because of the prayers and the advice that we received.
I miss her so much that I physically ache. Everyone should have a Ms. Jo. I mean everyone. Someone who is strong, not afraid to speak her mind, and loves so completely. I never doubted that she loved me and she never doubted that I loved her.
I Wish We Had More Time
We had little time…10 years maybe…not long enough. It is as simple as that. What started out as me admiring her grace and beauty (and her voice), moved onto noticing her beautifully crooked finger. Then it matriculated into me timidly asking her to be my mentor. Quickly followed by me setting on her porch and squalling so bad that she said we were going to make the neighbors talk and for the love of all…get in the house.
Next, it moved to me helping out here and there. Going to lunch and running errands. Lastly, it moved more into caregiving and sitting with her. Making supper and us eating it together while watching Jag. Cleaning. Oh my goodness, I cleaned things out. We looked at her billions of pictures and I soaked up all her memories.
Find a Mentor
Talk to your church and see if you can set up a mentor/mentee program. It is so worth every moment! “Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God” (Titus 2:3-5).
You will not regret it. I miss you, Lady. More than I can even describe. My best friend, person, mentor, accountability partner, teacher. I am so excited to see you again! Until we see each other again, I love your face off!