The Lost Art of Effective Doctor’s
The Lost Art of Effective Doctor’s. I always go into an office with new hopes and new challenges. I hope I take my kid into the office and get something valid. Anything, really, as long as it is a concrete diagnosis. One child went to seven hospitals to finally land on a final diagnosis. Another child has had a slew of issues. Sadly, after almost a year and a half, life is not much different. We have seen four doctors in two hospitals and have been about eight things. It’s super fun to be talked AT and not talked TOO.
The Crystal Vase
I am listening to Broken Vessels by Hillsong right now, and it is striking a chord within me. So many days, I feel like a shattered piece of glass. Once, I was a beautiful crystal vase. There was a purpose for my existence. I held water and beautiful flowers and made people happy. Now, over the last 5 or 6 years, my beautiful crystal self has been shattered, and it is in a million pieces. Some pieces are large enough to glue together, though the cracks still show. The rest is just dust. You can’t put dust back together.
That analogy is one I hold close to my heart, and I think of often. It comes from a movie, Joshua. Joshua is an old movie, but it is so important in my life. Man cannot take the shards and dust of my former self. Yet God can take all of those shards. He can craft something unique and different. This creation has a purpose and is worthy of being displayed.
Man, I am struggling tonight.
I have to drive to Louisville tomorrow with my sixth child. We are going to Norton’s Hospital to see if we can figure out what is wrong with him. I have such PTSD with this drive, the hospital, the doctors. Sadly, it is hard for me to explain.
That is the 3rd place we took my 7th child to when he was finally diagnosed with Opsoclonus Myoclonus Syndrome. It has been three years, and to me, it feels like yesterday. I can recite that first year like I am reading a book. It was so traumatic. Hearing the words “take your son home until he succumbs” haunts me to this day.
So, tomorrow, I have to look down the barrel of that gun, once again, with another child. The waiting, wondering, listening, being talked at instead of talked to, the anxiety floods over me. I feel like my vase is being shattered all over again.
I am Overwhelmed with Fear
Being alone, navigating this all by myself. I am harboring feelings or hurt that my husband wasn’t with me though I know he had to be here to take care of our other children back then. Logically, I know that. Yet, that anger is still within me.
Anger is secondary to fear and/or sadness. I am afraid of allowing myself to be vulnerable or of showing too much emotion. Honestly, I am afraid of asking the wrong things, feeling stupid by the “professional” doctors, and seeing that one that said my other son would die. Sadness. I feel sad because I do not want to have another child with another “super rare” thing.
I know that Fear is a Liar
For real, I have the shirt that says that. **Hahaha, I’m listening to praise and worship on Youtube while I’m writing this piece. Fear is a Liar just came on the channel. Wow. Just wow.** Yet, here’s the thing. We have been to see one doctor for his sleeping issues. We got there, did EEG, MRI, Sleep studies, bloodwork, etc. He was diagnosed with Idiopathic Hypersomnia.
In checking him for Transient Alteration of Reality, this doctor “accidentally” stumbled on Epilepsy. So then he had a diagnosis of Generalized Epilepsy with Gelastic Seizures and Absence seizures. He referred us to another neuro that works with teens for his Epilepsy. This same doctor would handle the Idiopathic Hypersomnia. The doctors did nothing else. There was no education on anything.
We get to the other doctor, did more bloodwork and another EEG. That showed that he was constantly having seizure-like bursts. So he changed the diagnosis to Juvenile Myoclonic Epilepsy with Gelastic Seizures, Grand Mal Seizures, and Absence Seizures. Prescribed meds. No education, just wait.
The first doctor “treats” him for IH, but in reality, does nothing. I mean, quite literally, nothing.
Then…the grand mal seizures began.
ER visits. No help.
Phone calls. No answers.
Emails. No responses.
Got a second opinion.
She said everything we were told was wrong.
Alrighty then. She spent 1.5 hrs with us. Now, we have information overload.
She is throwing around words like ESES, LKS, CSWS, and our heads are spinning.
“Get a medical id bracelet. You will need to cook with a buddy. Put the pans on the back burner, do not swim alone, do not climb a ladder. When bathing, tell someone and keep the door unlocked. Driving may be an issue. This may not go away we may have to take the magnet out of his head, ….”
His new diagnosis is Generalized Epilepsy with Grand Mal Seizures. He does not have IH or Narcolepsy.
“Can you wake him up when he falls asleep?” Uhm, no. It usually leads to a long episode where he makes funny noises, makes fists, and stiffens his body. “Oh, those are grand mal seizures without the convulsions.” Oh, well, okay then.
“Violent episodes where he seems possessed and looks different?” Yes. “Oh, that is a seizure.”
“Moody? Hysteria, tears, angry for no reason?” Yes. “Oh, those are seizures.”
“School…is he delayed in Language and Math?” Yes. “Yep, part of it.”
“Deaf?” Yes, in his right ear. “Also part of it.”
**UPDATE to say that what he was experiencing with the sleep episodes are not seizures. They are called Functional Neurological Disorder. Blog post coming soon about that.**
I am OVERWHELMED.
Going back to this hospital that sentenced my baby to death (yet he is fine now) and seeing all those same people make me so nervous. Our goal is to be home by Tuesday. Supposedly, we will not have to see that one doctor. We would not leave without a complete picture and plan. We shall see.
I am thankful that we were able to get into the hospital. Also, the doctor that I need to see is the one on call, so that is a positive. I am prepared. Big Daddy took care of little things like snacks, fixing my tire, and filling up my tank. Also, I’m thankful I have therapy tomorrow because I will need to use my words.