In today’s world, a couple who has been married for 27 years is a rarity. My wife, Brandi, and I have been married for that long. One thing I know is you don’t stay married for that length of time without going through fire. We have had our fair share of fire, for sure.
In the beginning of our marriage I was not a believer. That put a huge strain on us. The first 7 years of our marriage was pretty rough. I was not following the Lord and leading like I’m supposed to. On several occasions, we were on the verge of divorce. But in 2001, I did surrender to Christ and things got better, not because of us but because of Him.
However, things weren’t all rainbows and unicorns after I was saved. I had an addiction to pornography that started when I was in middle school. Obviously, my wife was unaware but with any sin, light was shown upon the darkness. Sadly, my addiction still continued after she found out and again our marriage suffered to the point of divorce. But God saved me from my addiction and I have been delivered from it since. He worked a miracle in me and saved our marriage.
But as always, life gets in the way of happiness. Job, children, finances etc. were all distractions to our marriage. Many hurts happened and we had grown apart. It felt like we were spiraling towards separation again but again God intervened. It was like he hit me over the head with a frying pan. He showed me that I was too focused on self. I fell on my face and gave it all to the Lord. I decided that I would love, honor, serve and cherish my wife. God made me realize I was not fulfilling my role as her husband.
Since that night, I have done my very best to live up to that decision. And I would have to say, our marriage is on the mend.
Are we perfect people? No.
Will we always do or say the right thing? No.
Do we/I have the power to choose to love, honor and obey God and each other? Yes.
What I’m trying to get at here is that through it all, we have persevered. Has it all been bad? Absolutely not. We have more good years than bad. We just dwell on the bad more, which is not the way it should be.
But truth be told, God put me and Brandi together for a purpose. He did not make a mistake because He doesn’t make mistakes. I have loved her from the beginning. I have never stopped. She will forever and always be the one I choose and the one chosen for me. I love her more every single day and will love her for the rest of my life. Love you, babe!