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Baby Shower, Bridal Shower, Birthdays, Bathrooms

Baby Shower, Bridal Shower, Birthdays, BathroomsBaby Shower, Bridal Shower, Birthdays, Bathrooms

Can I just say that I can sometimes overwhelm even myself?  Well, I do.  More times than not, I get myself into more things than I should.  So, now I’m in the middle of a Baby Shower, Bridal Shower, Birthdays, Bathrooms.  In between November and the end of March, and (of course) the holidays, there is a lot happening.  We have about 12 birthdays and anniversaries.  Then there is my first grandbaby that will make her appearance.  Now, we have to slap in a baby shower, bridal shower, and a 5-day hospital stay and you have my life in a nutshell.  All birthdays went very well.

Baby Shower

With that being said, a baby shower is a must.  Due to covid restrictions, we did a virtual baby shower at my house.  My sister came and my kids.  We ate, she opened gifts, and we had fun.  She got a ton of stuff for Charleigh Mae and they are very thankful.

It is so surreal to see your daughter pregnant with her first daughter.  She is so beautiful.  This pregnancy has not been easy for her.  She has struggled with all-day sickness, loss of appetite, and all the other fun things that happen.  Yet, she has handled it beautifully.

She is going to be such an amazing little mama.  I can’t even contain my excitement.  Who would have ever thought I’d be excited to be a grandmother.  Honestly, who ever thought I was mature enough to be a grandmother.  Yet, here I am.

Bridal Shower

We had scheduled the shower for a week before the wedding.  I just couldn’t get it all done in such a squashed amount of time.  Sadly, Alyssa got really sick before the shower.  We knew she didn’t have covid19, so we assumed it was a bug or the flu.  Since we weren’t sure, we decided to postpone it.  If it was a stomach bug, Arkie could have gotten it and there are a lot of immunosuppressed people in our lives.

Arkie never got sick, but other things ended up happening.  We had a hospital stay (Hunter) and a snowstorm because that is just how things roll.  It got pushed back to the day before the wedding.  We were trying to get a date that his mom could be there, but due to the storm, it just didn’t happen.

It got done and they had a good time. We were all tired but the kids seemed to enjoy opening their gifts.  Luckily, we got great pictures that I will send to his mom.

Rehearsal

That was something as well.  It seems nothing wanted to go smoothly.  This snowstorm just threw a wrench into all the things.  His family was not able to travel to the rehearsal because they got more snow than we did.  I hated that for them.

We were able to get in and get a lot of decorations done.  Most of the people who were in the wedding was able to come.  I’m so glad there is a trial run because that’s when I got all of my squalling out.  Those songs she picked.  Geez.  I was crying, my mom, the girls…it was a cry fest.

We ordered pizza and just came back to the house to eat.  After eating, they opened gifts.  Then, we cooked for the wedding.  It was a long and crazy night.  After all that was done, we snuggled for a good long time.  Sigh, that girl has my heart.

Bathroom Remodel

To add to our fun, we decided to do a remodel on our bathroom.  A few years ago, my boys got into a scuffle and things happened.  One boy aggrevated another boy.  Then, the other boy pushed the one boy.  That boy’s butt went through my wall.

I have not used that bathroom in a long time because I get so mad that all I see is his full butt print.  There are 2 cheeks and a crack.  I bought stuff to redo it, my way, because we weren’t getting it done any other way.  Bart stepped in and did some work.  Then, he made some phone calls.

Once that happened, all the things happened.  We now have a new shower, the toilet was already fairly new, bought new flooring.  Our friend ordered new closet doors.  The next big thing is to get the sinks out, new ones bought, and installation.

Go Big or Go Home

So, all this stuff, at my house, happened with a torn up bathroom.  That and a front closet FULL of Charleigh Mae’s gifts, a corner in the living room FULL of Alyssa’s gifts, and birthday presents.  Upstairs was full of wedding stuff.  I mean, there is stuff every where and I haven’t known which way is up and which way is down.

Honestly, I wouldn’t know how to do something 1/2 way.  I have got to do it all they way and then add a little spice.  It’s what dreams are made of.

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Family Update February 2021

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Here is our BUSY Family Update February 2021.  For the shortest month of the year, it *feels* like this month lasted 428 years.  So.  Very.  Busy.  That meme cracks me up.  I’m not sure if it is my guardian angel, my mama, sister, or therapist.  Maybe all of them do that when I tell them something new.  Tis my life.

School

Still, Job Corp is not open.  I believe, to date, one has opened, so that is progress.  Right?  Noah got accepted into MSU and got his financial aid going.  He is figuring things out, so I don’t have to.  We’ve decided that Hunter will have his therapies at school.  Virtual therapy is STUPID.  It is seriously the dumbest thing ever.  He will only be at the school for an hour and a half.  Physical therapy, Occupational Therapy, and Speech will all be done weekly.  Maybe we will see some progress.

As for the boys, Jude is doing well.  He is learning to take his time.  The school gives him the ability to redo his assignments, but not tests or quizzes. He is learning to ask questions and study.  It has been a journey.  Daniel is struggling.  With FASD, it is hard.  Teachers “see” one thing (virtually), yet life is another.  We are going to take him 2x a week for tutoring.  After much back and forth, we adjusted his 504.  Praying that is going to help.

Happenings

There have been lots of birthdays this month.  Grayce, Hunter, Alyssa, Mimi, daddy, and several nephews have celebrated.  Also, we had a wedding shower for Alyssa on Hunter’s birthday.  That is one way to crunch it all in.  Originally, we had a separate day to do their share. Sadly, Alyssa got the flu or a stomach bug.  She was pretty pitiful.  We were not certain what she had, so we canceled until the 19th.  That would be one day before her wedding.

The rehearsal didn’t quite go as planned because there was a major snow/ice moment.  We considered postponing the wedding.  It was touch and go.  Alyssa was a wreck.  Arkie was a rock on the outside, still unsure of what lies beneath.  We got that done, without Arkie’s family.  Sadly, they got more snow than we did and just couldn’t make the trip.  I know that was a hard decision for them to make.

Once home, we did their shower.  Luckily, both my moms were here.  Hannah and Savannah were here.  Once the parents left, we started cooking.  We were all so tired but got it done.  Then, my girl came and snuggled with me until about 2 am.  Sigh.  Worth it all for that moment.

Wedding

All in all, we got it done.  My daughter was breathtaking.  Simply breathtaking.  Arkie.  I tied his tie and saw this sweetness in his eyes.  He really is a sweet boy.  Change is just hard.  Alyssa.  Stunning.  His family was able to come home.  The sun was shining.  Her pictures will be so beautiful with her flowers and the snow.

My mom knocked it out of the park with her flowers, doors, and all the things she creates.  She is brilliant.  My other mom was so helpful.  I’m so thankful my aunt was able to come.  The boys kicked in and helped clean up.  The food was good, the company was good.  Alyssa was so full of joy.  Arkie was so excited about his apple pies.

Health

Big Daddy was diagnosed with diabetes.  He has lost a lot of weight and his sugar levels are really good.  My plantar fasciitis sucks pond water.  That is in my right foot.  In my left foot, I’ve lost feeling in a couple of toes and the top of my foot.  It is due to a bone spur.  Eventually, when I lose feeling in more toes, we’ll address it.  My essential tremors have calmed down as have my psoriasis.

We have some upcoming appointments with Daniel to have him assessed for autism.  Honestly, we have always suspected it but as he gets older, things become more prominent.  Also, we have some upcoming appointments for Jude.  We are hoping to get some help with his FND.  Hunter had a massive treatment that I will address in another post.  So, stay tuned.

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I believe it is time for a large Family Update January 2021.  SO much has gone on with everyone in my house.  I am physically, mentally, and emotionally exhausted.  Honestly, I do not remember the last time *I* deep cleaned my house.  Sleep is not my friend, my emotions are on edge, and I have gained weight.  Also chopped my hair off, but that is a different story.

January

We started off the year with no school.  Really, no different for us because we were already doing virtual school.  This involved getting Daniel enrolled in high school.  He was coming off of being gone for several weeks and we had to enroll him.  There was a lot of togetherness.  We were all pretty much sick of each other.  Let’s be honest, we’ve been sick of each other since Covid19 and quarantine began.

We had the baby shower for Charleigh.  Again, not what we wanted but what is necessary due to the pandemic.

Counseling Continued and Began for Some

I continued on with counseling through January.  Honestly, it is nice to talk to someone but still frustrating.  I want to see more results, heal more, resolve more.  The boys also started counseling.  Honestly, the jury is still out on it.  They are with the same group as I am, but 2 different fellows.  We shall see how this pans out.  I hope it is successful.  We have goals.  There has been on revelation type opinion that we are further seeking out.

School

Again, it has not been the best experience.  I know the teachers are doing their best, but it is so hard for the students who struggle with special needs.  It’s almost like they are just continuing to ignore and let these kids fall through the cracks.  Just get by.

The kids do get the opportunity to retake homework and such to better their grades.  Yet, one of my kids needs more.  He struggles but no one sees it because he can work really hard and make passing grades.  The invisible disease of Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder, possible autism, and a host of all the other things make education hard.

I am not impressed with the level of care the administration has for my son.  They said that there is nothing really that they can do and I find that disturbing.  Hunter is doing well, for the most part

Technical School and College

Job Corp is still not open, so we are in limbo.  The county that this particular school is in has to go “orange” in order to open.  College is going well for my son.  In the fall, he will begin going to Murray State.  He will start his junior year.  Where did the time go?

Health

It’s been a hard month OMS-wise.  The shaking is pretty significant in his hands.  His behavior is hard.  Schoolwise, he is doing really well.  Jude had one seizure this month.  We did up his meds for epilepsy.  He has not had any more Non-Epileptic Seizures.  The Functional Neurological Disorder stuff is a work in progress.  Daniel is transitioning home fairly well.  It has been an adjustment with him being home.

Family

Bart is okay.  Work is a struggle.  Covid19 sucks.  Bug and Ben are well.  Baby is doing great!  I’m so excited to meet her.  Alyssa and Arkie are engaged.  So, there’s that.  G … life as it happens.  Noah is good, busy, but good.  I pretty much gave the update on the younger boys.

For me, I’m tired.  Old.  Tired.  Trying to find time for self-care.  This level of parenting is so different.  It isn’t physically exhausting as much.  For me, it is mentally and emotionally exhausting.  I just want to be and do all the things for all the kids.  Sadly, I can’t.

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Well, I guess it is time for an Update on my Family.  It has been a while since I’ve given one and I guess it is long overdue.  Can I just say, I am SUPER glad September is over!  That whole month weighed so heavily on my heart.  Reading the stories, reflecting on my journey, and just allowing myself to feel.  Suicide is a real thing and it is out of control if you ask me.  Please, check on your friends and family.  Spread love and kindness.  Help.  Be an ear.  God is so much bigger than that moment of uncertainty!

Bug & Ben

They are still married (yay) and are doing well.  Still young, still got a lot to learn, still navigating all the things but all in all, things are good.  They are both working from home, so that is a LOT of togetherness!  In that togetherness, they forgot to be socially distant and are now expecting a little one.

Let me repeat.

They.  Are.  Expecting.  A.  Little.  One.

One more time for those in the back.

I AM GOING TO BE A GRANDMOTHER.

Breathe.  It’s fine.  I’m fine.  Breathe.

Don’t get me wrong, Flash and I are excited to meet each other.  Hunter named the baby Flash because well, he is 6.  We don’t know if it is a boy or girl.  Honestly, I could care less.  I used to think that was a crock of crap when people said that.  Now, I get it.  I truly don’t care.  So, I am going to be Lolli and Big Daddy will be Pop.

Get it?  I wanted us to be Harriet and Nels or Alice and Mr. Edwards.  Only Bug agreed with that, no one else did.  Whatever.

Peach

My girl did it.  She graduated college with her Bachelor of Science.  Sadly, her last semester had to be done virtually because of stupid co-vid, but she did it.  Come November, she is walking for graduation.  I could not be more proud of her.  I mean, geez.  She is brilliant and beautiful.

Trying to find that “big girl job” has been tedious, but she is working.  It is not her dream job but that will come.  She really is good at what she is doing, it is just hard emotionally.  Her niche is geriatrics.  She loves the elderly and has such respect for them.  The love and grace she shows in working with them…the respect.  She is her mother’s daughter.

Echo has a friend now.  My Ted moved in with them and so did Maureen Kitty.  She is a plant mama and has a cute little apartment that she has decorated so pretty.  This girl of mine…she is going places (just not too far from me!)

Gigi

It’s been a hard summer.  Honestly, it’s been a hard 13 years.  I am not going into any detail because my head and heart simply can’t.  This month, she will be attending school, away from us.  She will be learning a trade and life skills to move forward in her life.  This has been a hard decision for us to make but it is necessary.

For 2 months, we were blessed with the best gift, at the perfect time.  A friend offered to let her come to her house for a couple of months to let life settle a bit.  It gave us all time apart to heal and reflect on what is best for her and the rest of our family.

I pray the Lord guides her every step.

Boo

Well, he still has a female friend and has mentioned moving out.  As I choke back on my vomit and tears, I now refuse to discuss it.  I was pretty good about the girls moving out, but why oh why am I struggling.  Geez.  His little female friend has captured my heart.  She is a sweet girl, though we often talk about making space for Jesus when they sit too close to each other!

He is still in college and loving it.  I think he wants to be a sports journalist.  He loves sports and he has discovered that he loves writing.  In his job, he left his first job for another and then left that one for the first one because he was going to be promoted.  He is a hard worker but his room is a pigsty.  I just don’t get it.

Catfish

Due to the events of the summer, D is away at school until December.  Some things occurred where it was necessary for him to be away.  I email him.  He writes (when he remembers) and he calls every Friday.  Some are good calls and some, he just misses his mama.  I sure do miss him but I know he is learning so much.  Thankfully, this school is geared towards the career that he is wanting to pursue.

Sadly, he got co-vid (well, he and 13 other boys).  That was crappy but luckily they were asymptomatic.  We have had to send him a lot of soap LOL and shoes.  He is wearing them out!  Thankfully, he is learning and working through the events of this summer and processing some of his choices.  I am super proud of him.

Jude

He doesn’t have a nickname…wonder how that happened?  I’ll have to think of one.  He is “virtually” schooling from August until December.  I am hoping he will be back in school in January.  The past year, we have been struggling and fighting to figure out what has been going on with him.  This summer, we finally got our answer.

He has Functional Neurological Disorder.  In normal terms, he has narcolepsy.  Let me tell you, it is not like what you see in the movies.  It has been so hard.  In the midst of all the testing for Idiopathic Hypersomnia (which turned out to be FND), we stumbled on Epilepsy.  Yep, you read that right.  He also has Generalized Epilepsy.

Triggers

His triggers are stress and lack of sleep.  We have had TONS of stress this summer and he has narcolepsy, so there is your lack of sleep.  He had his first grand mal seizure and that is something I never want to see again in the history of ever.

Kid

Good grief.  He is busy.  So.  Very.  Busy.  He talks.  All.  The.  Time.  He is virtually schooling and doing pretty well.  Amazingly enough, he has promoted up a reading level…to HIS reading level on HIS grade!  He is reading so well.  Treatments are going as well as they can.  His OMS is still there and prevalent, but he compensates like a beast.

He is getting so tall and loves being outside.  His favorite thing to do is run.  “Mom, I just need to run.”  I can think about it when he was in a wheelchair.  Most days, I just sit and watch him run back and forth through the yard and I smile.  This child is fearless.  He brings joy to my heart.

As For Us

We are healing, as a family.  Big Daddy is adjusting to working from home.  I’m looking at going back to work part-time.  We have A LOT of kittens.  When they are weaned, we are getting the mama’s fixed so we don’t have to worry about that anymore.  I know you want to know their names…right?  In no particular order:

Karen, Inez, Joan, Janis, Joplin, Lloyd, Linda, Lonnie, Ronnie, Roger, Kim, Pat, Wenago, Tibebu, Ephraim, and Bart.

So freaking cute.  I love cats.

I guess that is all for now…until next time.

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I was hoping, that 2018 would be a banner year but Welp My Rainbow Threw Up!

A goal was going to lose 50 lbs. (We did join WW, now we have to utilize it)

My daughter would get married, without any issues. (Success)

She would also find her dream job. (Success)

Big daddy would lose some weight. (Did join WW with me and the gym)

Hunter would be healed.

Another loan paid off.

Finally, we would get ahead in our savings.

Resolution of the behavior issues.

School would go off without a hitch. (We are so close to being done, though it has been the bare minimum)

Noah would take his ACT and do well.

Daddy was going to get better. (Even after another scare, this year, and still trying to get bad habits under control….he got a good report from the doctor)

Resolution for a major family issue.

A child would be safe.

Mending would happen in a relationship. (Well on its way)

This was gonna be the year of the Crum family.

After several years of sucking dirt…..our rainbow was reemerging.

Yet…

My beginning rainbow…..that I was SO excited to see…..threw up.

Now, I have chunks of Red, Orange, Yellow, Green, Blue, Indigo, and Violet all over my floor.

The first 1/4 of my rainbow will have lots of cracks, scratches, dents, and scars but my rainbow is beginning to be rebuilt.

However, I still hold onto hope, hold onto Jesus, and I hold onto the promises that He has given me in His Word.

Today, I revel in the things that are being rebuilt.

Even with those scars.

It may not look like the original rainbow, but it is still full of color and character.

Here’s to rebuilding my rainbow and starting on the second quarter of this year.

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