Hearing that your child is being bullied can break your heart. You may feel angry, helpless, or unsure of what to do next. But your calm, compassionate response can make all the difference. Children who experience bullying need to know one thing above all else: they are not alone.
Listen First, React Later
When your child shares that they’ve been bullied, listen carefully without interrupting or rushing to fix it right away. Your first response sets the tone for how safe they feel opening up again. Try to stay calm, even if what you hear is painful.
Say things like:
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“I’m so sorry that happened.”
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“Thank you for trusting me with this.”
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“You didn’t deserve to be treated that way.”
Children often fear that telling an adult will make things worse, so reassurance is key.
Gather the Facts Gently
Ask open-ended questions:
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“Can you tell me what happened?”
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“How often does this happen?”
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“Where does it happen school, online, or somewhere else?”
Document what your child shares and, if appropriate, contact school officials or other authorities who can help ensure safety.
Teach Emotional Safety
Help your child develop coping strategies for the anxiety, sadness, or fear that bullying causes.
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Encourage them to use deep breathing or grounding exercises.
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Practice positive affirmations together (“I am strong. I am loved. I am safe.”).
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Remind them that what others say does not define who they are.
Therapy can also be an essential tool for processing trauma and rebuilding confidence.
Faith That Strengthens
Remind your child that God sees their pain and loves them deeply. Psalm 46:1 says, “God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.” Encourage prayer as a way to release fear and find peace but never as a replacement for action and support. Faith and therapy work hand in hand to bring healing and courage.
You Are Their Safe Place
When children know they have a loving, consistent adult in their corner, their resilience grows. Let them know you’ll protect them, advocate for them, and walk this journey with them until they feel safe again. At Circle of Hope Counseling Services, we specialize in trauma-informed, faith-filled therapy for children, teens, and families navigating the emotional impact of bullying. Healing starts with hope and hope starts here. 💛
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