Self-Care 101 During Co-Vid19
I have been in this house since the beginning of March. Well, I have been “out” 2 times. Both times were to take my son to treatment. **Be jealous.** I do drive around town, occasionally. My son is medically fragile. I choose to be safe and keep my behind at home. My husband works outside the home 2 days a week. Boo, our oldest son, does have a job. For the most part, my family is contained. We don’t see anyone and no one comes here. YET…things are slowly opening up (wear masks and wash your hands)! So, Self-Care 101 During Co-Vid19 is happening!
People of internet land, I am getting a massage! I cannot tell you how excited I am. When my friend texted me, she told me that A) she was opening up with HUGE restrictions based on our state. She scheduled me. Then, B) she had to cancel because the number of restrictions were hard, so she was going to have to wait until it loosened up a little bit more. Safety for all people, ya know. Mad respect for that, yet HUGE disappointment. Then, C) because God is good…our governor switched things up again and I got scheduled again.
90 minutes of sheer bliss. I can’t even. Not only do I get to see the precious face of my friend but she is totally going to jump on my back and work her toes into my knots. She is AMAZING! I’m so pleased that she is so mindful of the rules, my health, her health, and all the things.
I might have told her that I was gonna walk in with nothing but my mask on. She, politely giggled and said “Uhm, no.” LOL. I love the fact that we laugh and talk. It isn’t total silence. We catch up on all the things. Then, when she does my back, I fall asleep and drool.
I GET TO SEE MY MAMA!!!!!!!!!!! Oh. My word! I have not seen her in 3 mths. Now, we talk multiple times a day but I get to SEE HER FACE! You will not be able to peel me off the ceiling! As you get older, you realize that you still need your mama (and dad) and how precious they are.
I gave her instructions. First, we were going to hug for an hour. Then, she was going to rock me for at least 2 hours. Next, I’m going to curl up in her bed and she is going to stroke my hair and sing to me while I nap for about 4 hours. Last, I’m going to wake up and she is going to have cooked my favorites. Fried chicken, mashed potatoes, green beans and potatoes, macaroni and cheese, and lima beans. Before I leave, we will hug for another hour.
She kindly said “now, Brandi, we probably won’t do all of that because there is no touching.” Little does she know…I will wear a garbage bag or something to keep the cooties away. I just want to see her person.
We are meeting friends for dinner, at their house (where they have not gotten out…so no one will have been exposed). Grilling out, swimming, chatting with other adults. All my kids (who again, have been quarantined). Stop it. Just stop it right now. I miss this friend, terribly, and I’m so glad that we have 1 case in our county. For the most part, people are abiding by the rules. There are the ones that don’t listen well, which is sad. Having a medically fragile child puts all the things into perspective.
I am getting my hair done. Let me clarify, I’ve decided to let myself go gray (oh my word). So, I’m just getting a haircut BUT I miss my friend. I’m so excited I get to see her. There have been some amazing humans touch my hairs. I have been so blessed by the hairstylists who have become good friends. Now, if God would just create in my hair a pretty blonde and ringlets, that would be great!
I have been cutting my boys’ and husband’s hair for a long time. It is an art and I am not qualified. Luckily, my husband lets me shave his off. My boys’ hair, I have learned how to scissor cut and not make them look like they have an Amish hair-do. I did, last night, trim my daughter’s hair. My friend gave me tips and I did a pretty good job. No layers, bangs, or anything wild over here.
Because all things have been closed, my #2 daughter has asked that my oldest daughter, the youngest daughter, and me over to the place where she sleeps. She wants to have a “spa” day and treat us all. I mean, how sweet is that. We will probably order pizza and watch movies while we pamper each other. By “pamper” each other, I mean they give me a mani- and Pedi- because that is not something I’m good at. Maybe we can get those peel-off masks that are so relaxing to me!
All of this is happening over the next few weeks, so it’s not like I’m doing it all in a day. My mental health has taken a hit, like most people. Self-Care is not selfish or wrong. It is imperative that we take care of ourselves.
Listen to Me
Reach out to a friend, call your pastor, check with a counselor, call your doctor, take a bath, take a nap, read the Word. Find a good book or movie or show. Pet a cat, bake cookies. Whatever you find relaxing DO IT! There is no shame in having a movie marathon day. Your mental health is so important. If you need help, it is there. You are loved, you are worth, you are strong, you are kind, and you are good! Love yourself. If you ever feel like life is too much, you can text 988 for help! Or you can call Suicide Prevention Hotline. Your life is worth saving!