When someone you love is living in fear, you may feel helpless, unsure of what to say or do. But your response matters more than you know. Survivors of domestic violence often live under a constant weight of shame, isolation, and doubt.
Your compassion could be the lifeline that reminds them they’re not alone and that help exists.
Listen Without Judgment
The most powerful thing you can do for a survivor is listen. Let them share their story at their own pace. Avoid interrupting, asking for details, or trying to fix the situation right away. Just be present.
Say things like:
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“I believe you.”
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“You don’t deserve this.”
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“You are not alone.”
Validation helps counter the lies abuse teaches lies about worth, blame, and hopelessness.
Don’t Pressure but Empower
Leaving an abusive relationship is incredibly complex. Safety, finances, children, and fear of retaliation often make it difficult. Instead of pushing them to act before they’re ready, gently offer support and help them explore options.
You might say:
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“When you’re ready, I’ll help you find a safe place.”
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“Would you like me to help you make a safety plan?”
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“I can go with you to talk to someone if you’d like.”
Empowerment, not pressure, helps survivors regain a sense of control that abuse has taken away.
Know the Resources
Being aware of local and national resources can save lives. Offer information gently. Don’t insist or demand action.
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National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or text START to 88788
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Merryman House Domestic Crisis Center (Paducah, KY): 270-443-6001
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Lotus Children’s Advocacy & Sexual Violence Resource Center (Paducah, KY): 270-534-4422
If they decide to reach out, you can help with practical needs like childcare, transportation, or a safe place to stay.
Faith and Gentle Hope
As people of faith, we’re called to walk with others through suffering not explain it away. Romans 12:15 says, “Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.” God’s heart is for the oppressed, and His love never condones abuse. When you offer empathy and prayer, you become part of His healing work.
You Can Make a Difference
Supporting a survivor takes patience, empathy, and consistency. You may not have all the answers, but showing up with love and understanding can be life-changing.
At Circle of Hope Counseling Services, we provide trauma-informed, faith-filled therapy for survivors of domestic violence. Healing takes time but no one should have to walk that path alone. 💜
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