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How the Body Keeps the Score

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How the Body Keeps the Score

How the Body Keeps the Score: Listening to What Your Body Is Trying to Say

Have you ever felt like your body was reacting to something even when your mind couldn’t quite explain it? A racing heart, tight chest, sudden exhaustion, or a stomach that flips for no reason—these are all ways your body might be trying to communicate that something unresolved is still lingering beneath the surface. Trauma doesn’t just live in our memories—it lives in our bodies. This is How the Body Keeps the Score.

The phrase “the body keeps the score” comes from Dr. Bessel van der Kolk’s groundbreaking work on trauma. His research confirms what many people experience daily: your body remembers what your mind tries to forget. Even if you can’t recall every detail of a traumatic experience, your nervous system often responds as though you’re still in danger. This can lead to chronic anxiety, panic attacks, pain, digestive issues, or even autoimmune problems.

Unresolved Trauma

Unresolved trauma can trigger a constant state of hypervigilance. Your body stays on high alert, always bracing for the next blow. You might overreact to small stressors, withdraw emotionally, or feel completely numb. These reactions aren’t signs of weakness—they are survival mechanisms. Your body adapted to protect you, but now it needs permission to rest.

God created our bodies with incredible design and purpose. Psalm 139:14 reminds us, “I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” This includes our brain chemistry, our nervous system, and even our stress response. He doesn’t condemn us for our trauma responses—He gently calls us into healing.

Healing starts with awareness. If your body is holding onto trauma, it’s not betraying you—it’s asking you to pay attention.

At Circle of Hope Counseling Services, we recognize the deep connection between emotional and physical well-being. In therapy, we help clients become more aware of how trauma lives in the body and how to gently unwind that tension through grounding techniques, breathwork, somatic awareness, and faith-based practices.

Practical Tips to Support the Body After Trauma:

  • Practice grounding: Try placing your feet flat on the floor and focusing on what you can see, hear, and feel. This brings your mind back to the present.

  • Breathwork and prayer: Deep, intentional breathing combined with prayer calms the nervous system and invites God’s peace into your body.

  • Gentle movement: Stretching, walking, or yoga can help release stored tension and increase body awareness.

  • Be kind to yourself: Don’t push past your limits. Listen to your body and honor its signals without judgment.

Faith-Based Encouragement:

Jesus understands pain—not just emotional, but physical. He bore it all on the cross. When you feel overwhelmed by your body’s reactions, remember that you are not alone. God is present in every heartbeat, every breath, every moment of unrest. He’s not asking you to push through alone—He’s inviting you to rest in Him.

💛 If you’re navigating life’s hard places and need a safe space to heal, grow, or just breathe—Circle of Hope Counseling Services is here for you.

We offer trauma-informed, faith-filled therapy for individuals, couples, and families.

📞 Reach out today to schedule your first session (KY residents only) or learn more: Circle of Hope Counseling Services.

You don’t have to walk this journey alone. Hope starts here.

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The Body Keeps the Score

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The Body Keeps the Score: How Unresolved Trauma Manifests Physically

We often think of trauma as something that exists only in the mind—something we can push down, lock away, and move past if we just “get over it.” But the truth is, trauma doesn’t just live in our thoughts; it takes root in our bodies. If left unresolved, it finds ways to make itself known—through chronic pain, fatigue, autoimmune disorders, digestive issues, migraines, and even seemingly unexplained physical symptoms. The body keeps the score, and it will keep sending signals until we listen.

How Trauma Affects the Body

When we experience trauma—whether it’s a single event or prolonged exposure to stress—our nervous system responds in a fight, flight, or freeze mode. This response is meant to protect us in the moment, but when trauma is not processed, our body remains on high alert long after the danger has passed. Over time, this prolonged stress response can lead to:

  • Muscle tension and chronic pain – Our bodies physically brace for impact, whether from past or future threats. This can result in tension headaches, neck and back pain, or even fibromyalgia.

  • Digestive issues – The gut and brain are deeply connected. Trauma can trigger irritable bowel syndrome (IBS), nausea, or appetite changes.

  • Autoimmune conditions – Chronic stress weakens the immune system, making it easier for the body to attack itself.

  • Exhaustion and fatigue – Trauma is draining. If the body is constantly in survival mode, it depletes energy levels, leaving people feeling exhausted no matter how much rest they get.

  • Heart problems – Anxiety, panic attacks, and prolonged stress can contribute to high blood pressure and heart disease.

Healing: Releasing Trauma from the Body

Healing from trauma isn’t just about mentally letting go—it’s about physically releasing it from the body. This often involves:

  • Forgiveness (of yourself and others) – Holding on to pain and resentment keeps the body in a stress response. Forgiveness doesn’t mean excusing harm, but it allows you to free yourself from the weight of it.

  • Therapy and Somatic Work – Traditional talk therapy is powerful, but sometimes the body needs more. Somatic therapy, EMDR, yoga, breathwork, and other body-based approaches can help release stored trauma.

  • Movement – Trauma often gets stuck in the body, and movement helps release it. Whether through exercise, dance, stretching, or even shaking, physical activity helps reset the nervous system.

  • Mindfulness and Meditation – Practices like meditation, deep breathing, and grounding techniques help calm the body and bring it back to a place of safety.

  • Seeking Support – Trauma healing is not meant to be done alone. Community, counseling, and safe relationships help the body feel secure and supported.

Your Body Deserves Healing

If you’ve ever felt like your body was betraying you with pain, illness, or exhaustion, consider that it may actually be trying to protect you. Trauma that isn’t addressed will keep showing up until it is acknowledged, processed, and released. You deserve healing—not just in your mind, but in your entire being.

The body keeps the score, but you have the power to rewrite the story.

💛 If you’re navigating life’s hard places and need a safe space to heal, grow, or just breathe—Circle of Hope Counseling Services is here for you.

We offer trauma-informed, faith-filled therapy for individuals, couples, and families.

📞 Reach out today to schedule your first session (KY residents only) or learn more: Circle of Hope Counseling Services.

You don’t have to walk this journey alone. Hope starts here.

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What is a Traumaversary?

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What is a Traumaversary?

A traumaversary is the anniversary of some sort of trauma in your life. It can be from a deployment, abuse, car accident, traumatic pregnancy/birth, house fires, neglect… the list can go on and on. You aren’t obsessing over all the bad things that happened in your life. It is simply something that you haven’t resolved and your body keeps the score.

Symptoms of a traumaversary can vary from sadness, anger (another topic for another day), anxiety, hypervigilance, insomnia or hypersomnia, flashbacks, nightmares, guilt, and even can manifest itself in a physical illness. The book, The Body Keeps the Score is not a fun read but it is interesting and it does drive home these concepts. 

I explain it to people who have never heard this word before in a way that it is easy to understand. When they call me for an appointment, they are usually in some sort of acute stress. When we get to talking, I ask if they remember feeling this way at the same time, every year. 9/10 times, they do feel the same way and they can’t figure it out.
When we get to digging, there is usually something that occurred, way back when, that their body is remembering/reacting to even though they hadn’t cognitively thought about that issue since it occurred. They pushed it WAY down and stuffed it away. However, their body remembers.
There are ways to cope. First, acknowledge the event and that it no longer has power over you. Talking it out…not talking it to death over and over again but just one time from start to finish. When you get the thoughts out of your head through tears, snot, words, or writing…it releases it from captivity in your brain. Again, you are not giving it power over you. A lot of times, just talking it out and saying it out loud to another set of ears releases you from that bondage.
Every person wants to be seen, heard, and, validated in their experiences. When they are, it releases you from the prison that the trauma has placed you in. I want you to remember that you are normal. There is nothing wrong with you. Have grace and compassion with yourself, practice self-care, do something for others, or just take a nap or long shower.
You are not alone. Knowledge is power. You are no longer a slave to your past. Plant your feet firmly in the present and look towards your future. That is where hope lives.

💛 If you’re navigating life’s hard places and need a safe space to heal, grow, or just breathe—Circle of Hope Counseling Services is here for you.

We offer trauma-informed, faith-filled therapy for individuals, couples, and families.

📞 Reach out today to schedule your first session (KY residents only) or learn more: Circle of Hope Counseling Services.

You don’t have to walk this journey alone. Hope starts here.

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