You Can Be Kind and Still Say No
Saying no does not make you unkind. It may feel that way at first, especially if you are used to being the person who says yes, adjusts, helps, fixes, rescues,…
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Boundaries With People You Love
Setting boundaries with strangers is one thing. Setting boundaries with people you love is another thing entirely. It feels different when the person on the other side of the boundary…
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The Guilt That Comes After You Set a Boundary
Sometimes the hardest part of setting a boundary is not the boundary itself. It is the guilt that comes afterward. You finally say no.You finally speak up.You finally step back.You…
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Boundaries Are an Act of Stewardship
Boundaries are not just emotional tools. They can also be an act of stewardship. That may sound strange if you were taught that boundaries are selfish. But stewardship means caring…
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Why Boundaries Feel So Mean at First
If setting boundaries feels mean to you, you are not alone. For many people, boundaries do not feel peaceful at first. They feel terrifying. They feel selfish. They feel rude….
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Boundaries Are Not Walls
For a long time, many people hear the word boundaries and immediately think it means shutting people out. They imagine walls.Distance.Coldness.Rejection.Being mean.Cutting people off. But healthy boundaries are not walls….
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Naming What You Need Before the Season Starts
Naming What You Need Before the Season Starts Every season has its own demands whether they are school schedules, holiday gatherings, work deadlines, family changes. But too often, we enter…