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Learning to Breathe in a New Season

Learning to Breathe in a New Season

Learning to Breathe in a New Season

Nervous system and hope

After prolonged stress, breathing can become shallow without you even noticing. Your body stays braced. Your shoulders stay tense. Calm feels unfamiliar.

Healing includes learning how to breathe again, not just physically, but emotionally. Breath is how safety enters the body. Hope often follows regulation, not the other way around.

Scripture reminds us that breath is life. God breathed life gently, not forcefully. Healing works the same way. It does not demand peace. It invites it.

You are allowed to take this new season one breath at a time. You do not have to feel hopeful to begin healing. Sometimes breathing comes first.

 

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The Fear That Comes With Healing

The Fear That Comes With Healing

The Fear That Comes With Healing

Why safety can feel threatening

Healing is often described as relief, but for many people, it begins with fear. When you have lived in survival mode for a long time, your nervous system adapts to threat. Hypervigilance becomes familiar. Tension becomes normal. Calm, ironically, feels unsafe.

When life begins to slow down, your body may not trust it. Peace can feel like the quiet before something bad happens. Safety may trigger anxiety rather than comfort. This does not mean healing is wrong. It means your system is learning something new.

Trauma teaches the body that danger is always close. Healing asks the body to release that belief, slowly and gently. Fear often shows up not because you are regressing, but because your system is recalibrating.

Scripture reminds us that God does not shame fear. Over and over, we are told not to be afraid, not as a command to suppress emotion, but as reassurance of presence. Fear is met with patience, not punishment.

If fear has risen as things begin to feel calmer, pause and notice it with compassion. This is not failure. This is your body learning that safety can exist.

 

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Letting Light Back In After Darkness

Letting Light Back In After Darkness

Letting Light Back In After Darkness

Emotional openness

After darkness, light can feel overwhelming. Healing does not always feel comforting at first. Safety can feel unfamiliar. Calm can feel exposed.

Letting light back in is a process. You do not open all the windows at once. You crack one open and notice how it feels.

Scripture reminds us that light reveals, but it also warms. It brings clarity slowly. You are allowed to control how much light enters your space.

Emotional openness is not about vulnerability without boundaries. It is about choosing when and how to soften.

You are not broken for flinching at the light. You are learning how to trust it again.

 

 

 

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Starting Again When You’re Afraid to Hope

Starting Again When You’re Afraid to Hope

Starting Again When You’re Afraid to Hope

Gentle courage

Starting again can feel more frightening than staying stuck. When hope has disappointed you before, your system learns to be cautious. Hope stops feeling like comfort and starts feeling like risk.

Fear does not mean you are weak. It means you remember what it cost to hope the last time. Your heart learned to protect itself, and that protection deserves respect.

Gentle courage does not demand big leaps. It looks like taking one step without promising yourself an outcome. It looks like saying maybe instead of always or never. It looks like allowing possibility without forcing belief.

Scripture often speaks of faith as small. A mustard seed. A flicker. Something barely visible but alive. You do not have to feel confident to begin again. You only have to be willing to move slowly.

Hope does not need to be loud. It can be quiet and careful and still real.

 

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New Beginnings Don’t Have to Be Loud or Public

New Beginnings Don’t Have to Be Loud or Public

New Beginnings Don’t Have to Be Loud or Public

Private healing counts

We often imagine new beginnings as visible moments. Big decisions. Announcements. Fresh starts that can be named and explained. But many of the most meaningful beginnings happen quietly, without witnesses, without words.

Some healing begins in the smallest ways. A morning where you get out of bed without forcing yourself. A boundary you keep but never explain. A thought you no longer chase. A prayer whispered instead of spoken out loud.

These moments do not look impressive from the outside, but they are real. They matter. Private healing counts just as much as public transformation.

After trauma, safety often returns before confidence. Your system learns first how to settle, how to soften, how to stay present. That work happens internally. It is not flashy. It is steady and deeply brave.

Scripture reminds us that God sees what is done in secret. Growth does not need an audience to be valid. Some beginnings are meant to be protected, not displayed.

If your new season feels quiet, let it be. You are not hiding. You are healing.

 

 

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When the World Is Blooming but You’re Still Healing

When the World Is Blooming but You’re Still Healing

When the World Is Blooming but You’re Still Healing

Permission to move at your own pace

It can be painful to watch the world bloom when you still feel tender. Social media fills with smiles, plans, celebrations, and momentum. Meanwhile, you may still be catching your breath.

Healing rarely follows the calendar. There is no moral failure in moving slower than the season around you. Your nervous system, your heart, and your faith all need time to feel safe again.

Scripture reminds us that there is a time for everything. Not everyone is called to the same pace or the same expression of growth.

You are allowed to heal quietly while the world is loud. Also, you are allowed to take smaller steps. You are allowed to say no to things that feel like too much, even if they look good on the outside.

Your pace is not a problem. It is information. Listen to it.

 

 

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Spring Doesn’t Erase What Winter Took From You

Spring Doesn’t Erase What Winter Took From You

Spring Doesn’t Erase What Winter Took From You

Honoring loss while welcoming hope

Spring has a way of arriving with expectation. The light lasts longer. The air softens. The world starts to stretch and open again. And yet, for many people, spring does not feel like relief. It feels like pressure.

There is an unspoken message that once the season changes, you should too. That the return of green means the pain should be gone. That the warmth should undo what the cold took from you. But that is not how healing works.

Winter takes things. It takes energy, certainty, innocence, relationships, health, and sometimes entire versions of ourselves. Spring does not reverse those losses. It simply arrives alongside them.

You can welcome hope without denying grief. You can notice the buds on the trees and still feel the ache of what did not survive the winter. Both can exist at the same time. Healing is not a replacement of loss. It is a learning to carry it differently.

Scripture reminds us that God is near to the brokenhearted. Not just after healing. Not just once joy returns. Near in the middle of loss. Near while we are still naming what hurts.

Spring is not an eraser. It is an invitation. An invitation to keep going while honoring what you have been through.

 

 

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God Is Not Asking You to Heal Overnight

God Is Not Asking You to Heal Overnight

God Is Not Asking You to Heal Overnight

Permission to go slow

Healing is not a race.

God is not impatient with your nervous system. He is not measuring progress by speed.

Growth unfolds through safety, repetition, and grace. Scripture shows restoration happening over time, not instantly.

Going slow does not mean you lack faith. It means you are honoring your limits.

You are allowed to heal at the pace your body requires.

God walks with you in process, not just outcomes.

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Porn, Substances, Gambling – Different Addictions, Similar Wounds

Porn, Substances, Gambling - Different Addictions, Similar Wounds

Porn, Substances, Gambling – Different Addictions, Similar Wounds

Addictions may look different on the surface, but the relational wounds they create are often strikingly similar. Whether the struggle involves substances, pornography, gambling, or another compulsive behavior, the impact on loved ones follows familiar patterns.

Secrecy, emotional distance, broken trust, and unpredictability show up across addictions. Partners and family members often experience the same confusion, grief, and anxiety regardless of the specific behavior.

Minimizing one addiction over another can invalidate real pain. The nervous system does not distinguish between types of betrayal. It responds to loss of safety.

God sees the full picture. He sees not just the behavior, but the ripple effects that spread through relationships.

Naming the common wounds allows loved ones to feel less isolated. You are not overreacting. You are responding to real harm.

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Why Addiction Hurts Everyone in the Room

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Why Addiction Hurts Everyone in the Room

Addiction does not live in isolation. It affects families, marriages, friendships, and entire systems. When one person struggles, everyone around them feels the impact.

Families often reorganize around addiction without realizing it. Roles shift. One person becomes the fixer. Another becomes invisible. Tension fills the space even when no one names it. Children sense instability long before they understand it.

Secondary trauma is real. Loving someone in addiction can create chronic stress, anxiety, and emotional exhaustion. Your nervous system stays on alert, scanning for the next crisis. Over time, this constant state of readiness takes a toll.

This is why so many loved ones feel overwhelmed, irritable, or numb. It’s not because they lack patience. It’s because their bodies and hearts have been under prolonged strain.

God designed people to live in connection, not in constant crisis. If addiction has affected your entire household, your pain is valid. Healing isn’t just for the one struggling with addiction. It is for everyone in the room.

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Telling the Truth Can Be Terrifying But You’re Not Alone

Telling the Truth Can Be Terrifying But You’re Not Alone

It's not over

When You’re Scared to Say You’re Suicidal

For many, the thought of saying out loud, “I’m suicidal,” feels overwhelming. What if people judge me? Also, what if they don’t believe me? What if I end up locked in a hospital forever? These fears are real and they often keep people silent in the moments when they need connection the most.

But here’s the truth: you are not alone, and speaking honestly about your pain is an act of courage, not weakness.

💔 Why It Feels So Scary

Admitting you’re thinking about suicide can feel terrifying because:

  • You’re afraid of being a burden.

  • You worry others will label you as “crazy.”

  • You fear losing control of what happens next.

  • You don’t want to scare or hurt the people you love.

These fears are common but silence only deepens the isolation. Sharing your truth is the first step toward relief, healing, and hope.

🌱 What Really Happens When You Reach Out

Here’s what you can usually expect when you tell a trusted person or professional that you’re suicidal:

  • You’ll be listened to. Most therapists, friends, or hotlines will start with compassion, not judgment.

  • You’ll be asked questions about safety. They may ask if you have a plan, if you’ve tried before, and what’s keeping you safe right now.

  • You won’t automatically be hospitalized. Hospitalization usually happens only if you are in imminent danger (with a plan, intent, and means). More often, support looks like safety planning, therapy, or connecting you with resources.

  • You’ll gain allies. Opening up creates space for others to walk with you through the darkness.

✨ Breaking the Fear of Judgment

Suicidal thoughts do not make you weak, selfish, or broken. They are a signal of unbearable pain…just like chest pain is a signal to seek medical care. Asking for help is not shameful; it’s human.

🌟 A Faithful Reminder

God is not afraid of your honesty. He already knows your struggles and still calls you beloved. Scripture reminds us: “The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” (Psalm 34:18). You don’t need to hide your pain from Him or from safe people in your life.

🌱 Final Encouragement

If you’re scared to say you’re suicidal, please hear this: your life matters. You don’t have to carry this weight in silence. Reaching out doesn’t take away your pain overnight, but it opens the door to hope and healing.

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How Jesus Modeled Rest in a Demanding World

How Jesus Modeled Rest in a Demanding World

How Jesus Modeled Rest in a Demanding World

Jesus healed the sick.
He preached to multitudes.
Jesus walked with the hurting, raised the dead, and answered the deepest cries of the human soul.

And still—He rested.


Rest Wasn’t a Luxury for Jesus. It Was a Rhythm.

Jesus often pulled away on purpose—not because He didn’t care, but because He did.

“But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.” —Luke 5:16

When the world pressed in, Jesus didn’t hustle harder. He stepped away to reconnect with the Father.

He:

  • Napped on a boat in the middle of a storm (Mark 4:38)

  • Escaped crowds to pray (Matthew 14:23)

  • Took time to eat, grieve, and be still with His friends

  • Invited His disciples to rest: “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.” (Mark 6:31)

Jesus wasn’t rushed. He was rooted.


If Jesus Needed Rest, So Do You

You’re not infinite. And you’re not invincible.
You’re not meant to carry everyone’s burden while ignoring your own.

Even Jesus—fully God, fully human—chose rest in the middle of the mission.

That means:

  • You can pause without guilt.

  • Leave the inbox unread.

  • You can take the nap.

  • And you can go off-grid and reconnect with God.

Rest isn’t retreat. It’s recalibration.


A New Definition of Strength

Culture says strength is doing more.

The gospel says strength is staying close to the Source.

You don’t have to wait until you burn out to make rest part of your rhythm. Jesus didn’t. You can follow His example right now.

Not because you’re lazy. But because you’re loved.

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But Still, Like Air, I’ll Rise

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But Still, Like Air, I’ll Rise

Words can wound.
Looks can belittle.
Hatefulness can crush a spirit.

And yet… somehow, you’re still here.

You’ve been talked about.
Rejected.
Misunderstood.
Judged.
Pushed aside.
Maybe even erased from the very places you once called safe.

And still, you rise.

Maya Angelou’s timeless words echo the truth many of us live every day:

“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I’ll rise.”

What a declaration.
What a battle cry.
What a promise for the soul that refuses to stay down.


The Power of Rising

When trauma has tried to define you…
When abuse has tried to silence you…
When betrayal has tried to break you…

God says you are more than what was done to you.

“The righteous may fall seven times, but they rise again.”
— Proverbs 24:16 (NIV)

You don’t rise because it’s easy.
You rise because it’s necessary.
Because staying buried under the weight of other people’s hatefulness was never your purpose.

Rising doesn’t mean pretending everything is okay.
It means choosing to breathe, to heal, to believe that who you are is not too much, not too broken, and not beyond redemption.


A Gentle Reminder

If your voice has been silenced—speak again.
If your identity has been questioned—stand firm.
If your hope feels small—hold it anyway.

📝 Try this: Write one thing today you’ve survived that once threatened to destroy you. Now thank God for the strength that brought you through.

You are still standing.
You are still healing.
You are still rising.

“No weapon formed against you shall prosper…”
— Isaiah 54:17 (NKJV)


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Love Yourself

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Love Yourself

Loving yourself isn’t selfish.
It’s sacred.

Some of us were taught to shrink, to apologize for our needs, to care for everyone but ourselves. Others have been through so much, we don’t even recognize the face in the mirror anymore.

But can I gently speak this over you?

You are worthy of love—even from yourself.

“Love your neighbor as yourself.”
— Mark 12:31 (NIV)

Jesus didn’t separate the two. He knew that real, lasting love flows from the inside out. But when you’ve been through trauma, betrayal, illness, or shame, self-love can feel like a mountain you don’t have the strength to climb.

Here’s the truth:
Loving yourself isn’t about perfection or pretending.
It’s about compassion.
It’s about seeing yourself the way God sees you—beloved, chosen, and still becoming.

You Can Love Yourself in the Middle of the Mess

Not when it all makes sense.
Not when the weight is lost or the healing is done.
Now.

Love is patient. So start there—with patience for the parts of you that are still hurting. Speak kindly to your reflection. Celebrate your small steps. Forgive yourself for what you didn’t know then.

📝 Try this: Every morning this week, look in the mirror and say: “God, help me love who You made me to be.”

“We love because He first loved us.”
— 1 John 4:19 (NIV)

You don’t have to earn love.
You are love.
And it starts with learning to embrace who God already says you are.


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Emotional Resiliency – Bending Without Breaking

Emotional Resilience

Emotional Resiliency – Bending Without Breaking

Some days hit hard.
Loss. Disappointment. Trauma. Stress.
You wonder, “How am I still standing?”

The answer might be found in two powerful words:

Emotional Resiliency.

Emotional resiliency doesn’t mean you don’t get knocked down.
It means you get back up.
Simply put, Emotional Resiliency – Bending Without Breaking.

You. Don’t. Break.


💛 What Is Emotional Resiliency?

Emotional resiliency is your ability to bounce back from stress, pain, or adversity. It’s what helps you:

  • Face hard days without shutting down

  • Stay grounded when emotions are big

  • Show up again after heartbreak

  • Heal from trauma over time

It doesn’t mean you never feel overwhelmed—it means you’ve learned how to feel and function at the same time.

Also, it means you’ve learned to trust that God will meet you in the storm.

“When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you.” – Isaiah 43:2


🛠️ Resilience Can Be Built

You don’t have to be born with emotional resiliency—you can build it. And often, the people who seem the strongest are the ones who’ve had to rebuild from the rubble over and over again.

Here’s how resiliency grows:

  • Safe, healthy relationships (even one is enough)

  • Naming and processing your emotions instead of stuffing them

  • Practicing self-compassion when you fall short

  • Holding space for faith, even when it’s messy

  • Asking for help without shame


🔄 Resilience Isn’t Linear

Healing doesn’t always look like a straight climb. It often looks like:

  • Progress

  • Relapse

  • Learning

  • Grace

  • Trying again

You may cry one moment and laugh the next. /Then, you may need a nap after a breakthrough. You may doubt yourself even as you’re growing. That’s okay.

Resilience isn’t a constant state—it’s a skill you return to.


🙏 You Don’t Have to Be Strong Alone

God never asked you to be indestructible. He just asked you to be honest. To come to Him with your brokenness and to trust that He can make beauty from ashes—even when the ashes are still warm.

“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” – Psalm 34:18

You are allowed to fall apart.
And you are allowed to start again.
You are allowed to feel. And still, you can rise.


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Know the Difference – Rest Is Not Avoidance

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Know the Difference – Rest Is Not Avoidance

Sometimes we confuse rest with avoidance. We think if we slow down, we’re just running away from responsibility. But rest and avoidance are not the same thing.

Avoidance numbs. Rest restores.
Avoidance distracts. Rest connects.
Avoidance runs. Rest receives.

God never called us to avoid the hard stuff. He called us to walk through it. We are do to this with Him. But He also told us to rest along the way.

In Matthew 11:28-30, Jesus said, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.”

Jesus didn’t say, “Come to me and escape it all.” He said, “Come to me and I’ll walk with you. I’ll carry this with you. I’ll show you how to rest even while you keep going.”

You can rest without running away. You can pause without quitting. Rest helps you reset so you can face what’s next with strength, not exhaustion.

Let God meet you in your rest—not just your work.


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“Being Brave” — H’s Story in His Own Words

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Some stories are best told in the words of the one who lived them. Here is “Being Brave” — H’s Story in His Own Words.

It’s been almost eight years since the day H’s world changed—and ours along with it. So much of that journey has been shared through my perspective as his mom, advocate, and witness to both pain and miracles. But today, H is ready to share a little piece of his own story. In his words. As he remembers it.

He’s still just a kid. He’s still healing. But he’s brave enough to look back—and kind enough to want others to understand.

So, with his permission, here is H’s story… told from his own heart.


Q: What’s your very first memory of when your body felt different or something felt “off”?

H: I woke up from my nap and when I did, I was shaking and I couldn’t walk.


Q: Do you remember how you felt when you couldn’t walk or when your legs were shaking?

H: I don’t remember. Now, I feel sad when my legs are shaking and my hands are shaking. I am sad because everyone at school asks me why I am shaking.


Q: What do you remember about being in the hospital? Was there a moment that scared you? One that made you feel brave?

H: I remember that it was a big room and there were doctors in there and I was in a bed. The moment that scared me was when I got the tube in my neck. That scared me because, at the end, when they took it out, I puked everywhere. Then I was crying. I remember being in the air watching me and mom, I was laying in mom’s arms and she was telling me to wake up. I felt brave when I came back to my mom that day. I was also brave in all of my appointments.

“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”
— Joshua 1:9


Q: What was the hardest part of being sick?

H: The hardest part was when I was shaking a lot, I couldn’t even feed myself and I had to be in a wheelchair and I did not like it because I could not walk.


Q: Can you think of someone who helped you feel safe back then? What did they do or say?

H: Mom made me feel safe. She said that she would stay by my side.


Q: What was your favorite thing someone brought you or did for you when you were hurting?

H: My favorite thing that people brought me were toys and people just being nice to me.


Q: How did it feel to not be able to walk when you wanted to?

H: It felt really mad because I just wanted to walk anywhere and I didn’t have the power to do that anymore because my legs didn’t work.


Q: Were you ever mad or confused? What do you wish people had understood about how you felt?

H: Yes, because I didn’t know why I was shaking and I was mad because I couldn’t walk. I wish people understood what it was like being in the doctors all the time and the feeling of not being able to walk.


Q: What does the word “healing” mean to you?

H: It means that Jesus gave me the strength to walk again.

“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”
— Psalm 147:3


Q: If your body could talk back then, what would it have said?

H: It would have said, “I don’t feel good.”


Q: Do you think people understand how hard it was—or do they forget?

H: I think people have forgotten how bad I felt. When some people go through a lot of things, sometimes they don’t remember.


Q: If someone else was going through something hard like you did, what would you want to tell them?

H: I would tell them to be brave because one day, it will all be over.


Q: If your story were in a book, what would the title be?

H: “Being Brave”


Q: What’s one thing about your journey you want to never forget?

H: One thing I don’t ever want to forget is how you stuck by me the entire time.


“Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for You are with me…”
— Psalm 23:4


Q: When you think about your future, what makes you excited?

H: It makes me excited that I don’t have to go through any of this anymore. It is all over and I don’t have to do it anymore.


Q: What are some things you can do now that make you proud?

H: I can walk, talk, and feed myself.


Q: Do you think your story could help someone else someday?

H: Yes because if they were going through hard and difficult things, I can help them understand because I went through the same thing.


Q: What kind of person do you want to grow up to be?

H: I want to be a helper.


Q: How do you think God helped you through the hardest parts?

H: He helped me, just like you, He was there the whole entire time. I also learned that God always stays in the same spot, He never moves.

“Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever.”
— Hebrews 13:8


Q: If your story were a superhero movie, what would your superpower be?

H: It would be helping.


Q: Can you describe what your legs used to feel like—and then what they feel like now?

H: They used to feel terrible and they hurt a lot. Now, they are much better but they still hurt a little when I stay on them for a long time. I have learned to not stay on them for long.


Q: What color would you give your feelings back then? What about now?

H: Back then, they would be pink (loved) because you were by my side and black (angry) because I hurt all the time and I shook. Now, they are yellow (happy) and pink (loved).


Q: What do you think helped you the most when you were hurting or scared?

H: You being by my side.


Extras from H

  • Favorite songs from that time:Sit at Your Feet” **This is what he said, the name of the song is
    The More I Seek You** and “Shackles

  • Favorite food during recovery: Caesar salad

  • What he wants people to know: “I want people to know what I’ve been through so they will understand why my hands shake and my legs hurt.”

  • Final thought: “I’m glad that He was always there for me… and so were you.”


💛 The Heartbeat Moment

This is H’s story. His truth. His hope. And his faith in a God who never moved.

He may still have shaking hands and aching legs… but he also has a voice, a testimony, and a calling to help others through their hard things, because he’s lived through his own.

“Let the redeemed of the Lord tell their story…”
— Psalm 107:2a

Thank you for listening to him. For seeing him. For remembering with us.

Because being brave doesn’t mean not being scared—it means standing tall even when your legs don’t work.
And H? He’s been brave since the beginning.

💛 If you’re navigating life’s hard places and need a safe space to heal, grow, or just breathe—Circle of Hope Counseling Services is here for you.

We offer trauma-informed, faith-filled therapy for individuals, couples, and families.

📞 Reach out today to schedule your first session (KY residents only) or learn more: Circle of Hope Counseling Services.

You don’t have to walk this journey alone. Hope starts here.

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Take a Breath

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Take a Breath: You Are Not Alone

Sometimes, we all need to take a breath. Life can be overwhelming—finances, family responsibilities, work pressures, church commitments, and the everyday challenges of simply existing can pile up quickly. It’s easy to feel like you’re drowning, trying to juggle it all while keeping a brave face. But here’s the truth: you don’t have to do it alone.

Your support system—friends, family, church, or close colleagues—can be a tremendous source of comfort. Lean into them. Let them lift you up when you’re struggling. But sometimes, even the best support system isn’t enough. And that’s okay. There’s no shame in needing more than what your inner circle can provide.

When life feels too heavy, reach out. Call a counselor, a therapist, or a pastor. There are people who are trained to help you process, heal, and find a path forward. Seeking help isn’t a sign of weakness—it’s an act of strength and self-care. You were never meant to carry the weight of the world alone.

We get one shot at life. There are no “do-overs.” That doesn’t mean you have to get it all right the first time, but it does mean that every moment matters. Don’t waste time feeling guilty for needing help. Don’t spend years believing that struggle is just “the way it is.” You deserve more than just surviving—you deserve to thrive.

So, take a breath. Love yourself. Love others. And remember, you are never alone.

💛 If you’re navigating life’s hard places and need a safe space to heal, grow, or just breathe—Circle of Hope Counseling Services is here for you.

We offer trauma-informed, faith-filled therapy for individuals, couples, and families.

📞 Reach out today to schedule your first session (KY residents only) or learn more: Circle of Hope Counseling Services.

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World Suicide Prevention Awareness Day

World Suicide Prevention Awareness Day

World Suicide Prevention Awareness Day

WARNING THIS COULD BE A TRIGGERING POST:  Today, September 10, 2020, is World Suicide Prevention Awareness Day.  Content in this issue contains information on death and dying, mental illness, and mental health crisis, which some readers may find triggering. If you need support at any time, please call or text 988, or the National Postpartum Depression Hotline at 1-800-PPD-MOMS.

#BEThe1To ASK

This can be a HARD thing to say.  For me, I don’t want to put that seed in their head, if it isn’t already there.  I do pray for discernment.  Simply say “How are you feeling?  Do you have anything in the home that can harm you?  Are you safe?  How can I help?  Do you feel the urge to do something unsafe to yourself.”

I always follow up those questions with truths.  “You are loved.  I love you.  You are my treasure.  There is hope.  Value to your life.”

#BeThe1To KEEP THEM SAFE

I usually show up, if I can.  There have been many hours spent cleaning my friends up while reminding them they are loved.  I have sat at hospitals for hours on end to just be present and remind them that they are loved and treasured.  This is a moment, this does not have to be their forever.  Sometimes, I have to be their voice when they are struggling to find their words.

#BeThe1To BE THERE

Did the people in the back hear this?  LISTEN WITHOUT JUDGMENT AND WITH COMPASSION AND EMPATHY.   This is NOT hard.  Just simply listen, support, encourage, and cry with them.  They don’t need you to fix it.  Honestly, they just need an ear.

#BeThe1To HELP THEM CONNECT

Know the number.  Call it for them, if they need you to.  Be the one who calls in the cavalry if you need to.  Give them a list of people that can listen and help.  Pastors, family, friends, therapists and then make sure they follow through!  Go with them if they need it.

#BeThe1To FOLLOW UP

When the crisis is over, for that moment, follow up and check on them.  Once a week, send an encouraging text.  Call.  Visit.  Somehow relay that you are so thankful that they are there and the purpose that they have in this life.  God is not done with them yet!

BEThe1To  You can save a life…just by asking!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

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Suicide Deaths in the United States

Suicide Deaths in the United States

These are some powerful visuals from the Suicide Prevention Resource Center.  The statistics are based on Suicide Deaths in the United States.  Please, stop and take a look.  More people have suicidal ideations than you think.  Sadly, some of these people may be your family or friends.

 

Suicide Deaths in the United States

From 2009 to 2018, the age-adjusted suicide death rate increased from 11.76 to 14.24 per 100,000 people. From 2009 to 2018, the rate increased from 19.23 to 22.79 per 100,000 for males. Among females, the rate increased from 4.88 in 2009 to 6.18 in 2018.

Suicides consistently outnumber homicides.

Suicide Deaths in the United States

 

The homicide rate has not consistently shown the upward trend that we see with the suicide rate.

Suicide Deaths in the United States

 

Suicide rates are generally highest in Alaska and in the western and northwestern United States, with the exception of southern California and parts of Washington. Rural counties generally have higher rates of suicide than urban counties.

References

  1. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, National Center for Health Statistics. (2020). 1999-2018 Wide-Ranging Online Data for Epidemiological Research (WONDER), Multiple Cause of Death files [Data file]. Retrieved from CDC Underlying Cause

  2. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. 2008-2014, United States Smoothed Age-Adjusted Death Rates per 100,000 Population [map]. All Injury, Suicide, All Races, All Ethnicities, Both Sexes, All Ages. (January 2020). Retrieved from CDC

  3. Rosen, L. M., Hedegaard, H., Kahn, D., & Warner, M. (2018). County-level trends in suicide rates in the U.S., 2005–2015. American Journal of Preventive Medicine [3], 55(1), 72-79.