The Difference Between Facts and Stories We Tell Ourselves
Here’s a fact: he didn’t come home until 2 a.m. and wouldn’t say where he’d been. Here’s a story: he’s probably been doing this for years and everyone probably knew…
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Boundaries With Old Versions of Yourself
Sometimes the person you need a boundary with is an old version of yourself. The version who survived by staying quiet. The version who apologized for everything. The version who…
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Boundaries With Being the Strong One
Being the strong one can become exhausting. People may come to you because you handle things. You listen. You fix. You carry. You stay calm. You keep going. And because…
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Boundaries With Apologies Without Change
An apology without change can become part of the cycle. “I’m sorry.”“I didn’t mean it.”“I’ll do better.”“That won’t happen again.” Those words can matter when they are sincere. But an…
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The Guilt That Comes After You Set a Boundary
Sometimes the hardest part of setting a boundary is not the boundary itself. It is the guilt that comes afterward. You finally say no.You finally speak up.You finally step back.You…
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Why Boundaries Feel So Mean at First
If setting boundaries feels mean to you, you are not alone. For many people, boundaries do not feel peaceful at first. They feel terrifying. They feel selfish. They feel rude….
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Hope Can Begin in a Broken Place
Hope does not always begin in a bright, easy place. Sometimes hope begins in the broken place. It begins after the loss, after the tears, after the disappointment, after the…
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The Grief of Being Strong for Too Long
Being strong can become its own kind of grief. At first, strength may be necessary. You do what has to be done. You make the calls. You handle the crisis….
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When Grief Changes Your Faith
Grief can change the way you pray. It can change the way you read Scripture. It can change the way you worship, trust, hope, and understand God’s nearness. Loss can…
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The Grief That Comes With Letting Go
Letting go can be necessary and still hurt. That is something we do not always talk about. Sometimes we act as if doing the right thing should automatically feel peaceful….
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When Grief Makes You Feel Like a Different Person
There is a strange part of grief that people do not always talk about. It is not just that you miss someone. It is not just that you cry, or…
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The Grief of Missing Who You Used to Be
Grief is not always about missing another person. Sometimes grief is about missing yourself. You may miss who you were before the loss. Before the illness. Before the betrayal. Before…
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When Memories Hurt and Heal at the Same Time
Memories can be complicated after loss. A memory can make you smile and ache in the same breath. It can bring warmth to your heart and tears to your eyes….
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The Loneliness Grief Leaves Behind
Grief can make a room full of people feel empty. You may have people around you. You may have family, friends, coworkers, church members, or acquaintances who care. You may…
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When Grief Feels Heavier in the Morning
There is something about morning grief that can feel especially cruel. Before the day has even started, before your feet touch the floor, before you have had coffee or answered…
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When Grief Changes the Shape of Your Days
Grief does not only show up at funerals, anniversaries, holidays, or in the moments when everyone expects you to cry. Sometimes grief shows up in the ordinary. It shows up…
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The Grief of What Should Have Been
Some grief is hard to explain because it is not only about what happened. It is about what should have happened. The parent who should have protected you.The marriage that…
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Where I Am With God Right Now
Where I Am With God Right Now. Holding faith when it doesn’t feel steady If I’m being honest, my faith doesn’t feel neat right now. It’s not wrapped up in…
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The Guilt No One Warns You About
The Guilt No One Warns You About and when love never feels like enough. No one really prepares you for this part. You expect the sadness, the worry, and even…
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Carrying This Forward Without Losing Yourself
Living what you have learned Healing seasons often end quietly. Not with resolution, but with awareness. You may not feel dramatically different, yet you know something has shifted. The way…