One of the hardest kinds of grief is grieving someone who is still alive. It can feel confusing, unfair, and lonely. How do you explain that you miss someone who can still text you? How do you explain that you are grieving a parent, child, sibling, spouse, friend, or family member who is still living,… Continue reading Grieving Someone Who Is Still Alive
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The Grief of What Should Have Been
Some grief is hard to explain because it is not only about what happened. It is about what should have happened. The parent who should have protected you.The marriage that should have felt safe.The childhood that should have been gentler.The friendship that should have lasted.The apology that should have come.The diagnosis that should not have… Continue reading The Grief of What Should Have Been
When Grief Does Not Look Like Crying
Grief does not always look like tears. Sometimes grief looks like irritability, exhaustion, or forgetting what you walked into the room for. Then sometimes grief looks like being completely fine in the grocery store until a song comes on, a smell hits you, or you see something they would have loved. There are times when… Continue reading When Grief Does Not Look Like Crying
When the World Keeps Moving
Grieving while life expects you to keep going One of the strangest parts of grief is realizing that the world does not stop. Your heart can feel shattered.And your body can feel heavy.Your mind can feel foggy.Honestly, your life can feel completely changed. And yet, the sun still comes up. People still go to work.Messages… Continue reading When the World Keeps Moving
The Strength of a Loyal Love
Honoring the quiet perseverance of my mother while grieving my Daddy There are some kinds of strength that do not look loud. They do not come with applause.And they do not announce themselves.They do not always look polished, rested, or peaceful. Sometimes strength looks like staying when everything is hard. It looks like getting up… Continue reading The Strength of a Loyal Love
The Strength I Saw in My Mom
When love keeps showing up in the hardest season There are some things you do not fully understand until you watch someone live them. Strength is one of those things. I used to think strength had a certain look. Maybe steady. Possibly calm. Maybe confident. Or maybe someone who knows exactly what to do and… Continue reading The Strength I Saw in My Mom
Watching Him Slip Away
he continued grief of losing Daddy before goodbye ever fully came There are losses that happen all at once. Then there are losses that happen slowly. The kind where someone you love is still here, but pieces of what you have always known begin to feel different. Their strength changes or their energy changes. Then… Continue reading Watching Him Slip Away
When the House Feels Different
The ache of changed spaces There is something about grief that changes a house and then that is when the house feels different. The walls are the same.And the furniture is the same.The rooms are still where they have always been. Yet everything feels different. A home can hold so much life inside it. The… Continue reading When the House Feels Different
The Ordinary Things I Miss Already
How grief lives in everyday moments Grief is not always loud. Sometimes it does not show up in the big, obvious moments. It can slip in quietly, through the ordinary things. A chair or a cup. It could be a room or a habit. A sound you did not realize mattered so much until it… Continue reading The Ordinary Things I Miss Already
The Guilt No One Warns You About
The Guilt No One Warns You About and when love never feels like enough. No one really prepares you for this part. You expect the sadness, the worry, and even expect the exhaustion. However, the guilt, that part catches you off guard. It shows up quietly at first. In the small thoughts like “I should… Continue reading The Guilt No One Warns You About
What I Haven’t Said Out Loud Yet
What I Haven’t Said Out Loud Yet The moment everything shifted. I don’t know if there was one exact moment. Honestly, I wish I could point to a day, a sentence, something clear and defined but it wasn’t like that. It was quieter and subtle at first and easy to dismiss if I wanted to.… Continue reading What I Haven’t Said Out Loud Yet
The Grief That Comes Before the Goodbye
The Grief That Comes Before the Goodbye There is a kind of grief that no one really prepares you for. Learning to hold what hasn’t fully happened because nothing has “officially” been lost. They are still here. You can still see them. Still talk to them. And still sit in the same room. Yet something… Continue reading The Grief That Comes Before the Goodbye
When Healing Brings Grief With It
When Healing Brings Grief With It Mourning what didn’t survive Healing is often expected to bring relief. Sometimes it does. But there are moments when healing opens the door to grief instead. Not new grief, but grief that was postponed because survival did not allow space for it. As life begins to feel steadier, you… Continue reading When Healing Brings Grief With It
The Grief No One Sees When Someone You Love Is Still Alive
The Grief No One Sees When Someone You Love Is Still Alive There is a particular kind of grief that comes from loving someone who is still alive but no longer fully present. It is rarely acknowledged and often misunderstood. This is called ambiguous loss. You are grieving the person you knew while still interacting… Continue reading The Grief No One Sees When Someone You Love Is Still Alive
Grieving After a Suicide Loss
There Is No Right Way to Grieve This Kind of Pain When someone we love dies by suicide, the grief that follows feels different. It feels heavier, more complicated, more confusing. It doesn’t fit into neat stages or tidy timelines. Instead, it crashes over us in waves: shock, anger, guilt, sorrow, and sometimes numbness. And… Continue reading Grieving After a Suicide Loss