You’re Allowed to Be Angry About What Happened
Somebody told you somewhere along the way that good Christians don’t get angry. That anger means your faith isn’t strong enough, or your forgiveness isn’t real yet. I want to…
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When Gaslighting Makes You Doubt What Happened
“That never happened.” “You’re remembering it wrong.” “You’re too sensitive.” If you’ve heard versions of those lines enough times, you know the particular disorientation that comes with them. It is…
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The Difference Between Facts and Stories We Tell Ourselves
Here’s a fact: he didn’t come home until 2 a.m. and wouldn’t say where he’d been. Here’s a story: he’s probably been doing this for years and everyone probably knew…
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Why Your Body Remembers What Your Mind Tries to Forget
You can decide, up in your head, that you’re done thinking about it. Your stomach doesn’t always get the memo. Neither does your jaw, or your shoulders, or the part…
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When the Person You Trusted Was the One Who Hurt You
There’s a particular kind of pain that only shows up when the hurt comes from someone who was supposed to be safe. A stranger can wrong you and it stings,…
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Naming the Betrayal Without Softening It
You know the sentence. “Things got complicated.” “We went through a rough patch.” “He wasn’t himself for a while.” Words that let everybody else off the hook, including you, and…
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Forgiveness Begins With Truth, Not Silence
Let’s start here, plain as I can say it. Forgiveness doesn’t open with a hug or an olive branch. It opens with the truth, said out loud, about what actually…