The Grief That Comes After Betrayal
Nobody died. That’s what makes this grief so lonely. There’s no funeral, no casseroles on the porch, no card in the mail. Just you, mourning something the people around you…
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How Betrayal Affects Trust, Attachment, and Intimacy
Here’s what nobody warned you about. The betrayal happened with one person, but the damage doesn’t stay in one place. It travels. Suddenly you’re keeping your best friend at arm’s…
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God Is Big Enough for the Truth
The last few posts tell the truth plainly, naming the wound, feeling the anger, sorting fact from fear. Before I move into the next part of this series, I want…
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BEFORE THE SHAKING Book 2 in the OMS Series
About the Book Kid was three years old when his legs stopped working. He was three years old when the doctors at the first hospital said it was strep, and…
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Forgiveness Does Not Require Reconciliation
Somebody’s going to tell you that if you’ve really forgiven someone, you have to let them back in. Same access, same closeness, same trust, like nothing happened. I need you…
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You’re Allowed to Be Angry About What Happened
Somebody told you somewhere along the way that good Christians don’t get angry. That anger means your faith isn’t strong enough, or your forgiveness isn’t real yet. I want to…
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When Gaslighting Makes You Doubt What Happened
“That never happened.” “You’re remembering it wrong.” “You’re too sensitive.” If you’ve heard versions of those lines enough times, you know the particular disorientation that comes with them. It is…
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The Difference Between Facts and Stories We Tell Ourselves
Here’s a fact: he didn’t come home until 2 a.m. and wouldn’t say where he’d been. Here’s a story: he’s probably been doing this for years and everyone probably knew…
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Why Your Body Remembers What Your Mind Tries to Forget
You can decide, up in your head, that you’re done thinking about it. Your stomach doesn’t always get the memo. Neither does your jaw, or your shoulders, or the part…
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When the Person You Trusted Was the One Who Hurt You
There’s a particular kind of pain that only shows up when the hurt comes from someone who was supposed to be safe. A stranger can wrong you and it stings,…
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Naming the Betrayal Without Softening It
You know the sentence. “Things got complicated.” “We went through a rough patch.” “He wasn’t himself for a while.” Words that let everybody else off the hook, including you, and…
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Forgiveness Begins With Truth, Not Silence
Let’s start here, plain as I can say it. Forgiveness doesn’t open with a hug or an olive branch. It opens with the truth, said out loud, about what actually…
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Boundaries That Help You Heal
Healing needs protection. It needs space and honesty, patience and safe people, and enough time to become more than just survival. That’s why boundaries matter so much. Without boundaries, healing…
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Boundaries With Your Calendar
Your calendar can tell the truth about your boundaries. Sometimes we say we value rest, family, healing, prayer, health, and peace, but our calendar tells on us. Too many commitments,…
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Boundaries With Rescuing
Helping is beautiful. Rescuing is different. Helping supports someone while still letting them carry their own responsibility. Rescuing picks up responsibility that was never yours to hold. Helping says, “I…
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Boundaries With Old Versions of Yourself
Sometimes the person you need a boundary with is an old version of yourself. The version of you who survived by staying quiet, who apologized for everything, who said yes…
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Boundaries With Grief
Grief needs boundaries too. That may sound strange, because grief already feels so heavy. But when you are grieving, your heart is tender, your energy runs short, your body moves…
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Boundaries With Being the Strong One
Being the strong one can wear you down to the bone. People come to you because you handle things. You listen, you fix, you carry, you stay calm, and you…
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BunMo Monkey Noodles Review: A Quiet Fidget Tool for Busy Brains
Disclosure: Ad/Affiliate Disclosure: BunMo sent me this product to try. This post is part of an Amazon Associates Creator Connections campaign, and this post contains Amazon affiliate links. As an…
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Please Help Protect Kentucky Waiver Services
I have never been one to ask people to like, share, call, email, or do anything just because I posted something. That is not really my style. But sometimes staying…