Reflecting on Nesting Bird Wisdom
A note from Brandi: This reflection is shared for encouragement, education, and personal reflection. It discusses grief, anxiety, depression, emotional release, support, and learning not to let pain take root. It is not therapy, clinical advice, crisis care, medical advice, or a substitute for professional support.
I was reflecting on Nesting Bird Wisdom from my sister a year ago. After a tough weekend, emotionally, I had my early Monday morning chat with my sister. We chit-chatted about nothing and everything. Then we moved into what my triggers were from the past weekend.
A statement swirls around in my head from another friend I told Tera. My friend said, “Brandi, you have to have a release. You have to find someone you can trust. Get this stuff off your chest. Cry if you need to cry.” My statement back to her was, “I had that person. She died. Now I don’t share or talk. I stuff it all down.”
Tera agreed with my friend. We talked about the stages of grief. Also, I have had no time to grieve anything over the past several years. I’ve gone from one hit to another. There has been little time to breathe. Sadly, no time to grieve. Sadly, there was no time to release the pain and emotion from everything that had happened.
Then, she took it one step further.
She said: “Brandi, it’s okay to have birds fly around your head (referring, of course, to grief, depression, anxiety, etc), but you can’t let them make a nest in your hair.”
I agreed. Then, I wiped my tears and got off the phone. Next, I went to the bathroom.
What I saw was a thing of fear and horror. My hair was straight up (circa 80-the 90s) in that great curly, let it be free, windblown hair.
I texted my sister and asked her to define “Nest in Hair.”
So, my birds have nested, and now it is time for them to fly south.
Bye, Bye Birdie. The bird has flown away!
Reflection Disclaimer: This post is educational and inspirational only. It is not therapy, clinical advice, crisis care, medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Reading this blog does not create a therapist-client relationship with Barefoot Faith Journey or Circle of Hope Counseling Services.
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