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What is and is Not in My Control

ByBrandi Crum, LMFT, ADHD-CCSP
Blog title graphic for What Is and Is Not in My Control, a reflection on boundaries, self-care, trust, letting go, and emotional healing.

What is and is Not in My Control. I am a work in progress. Without hesitation, I can tell you that trying to control everything is 99.9% of my problem. Well, that and lack of trusting anyone…maybe that goes hand in hand, I don’t know. It’s a problem. I know that, get it, and respect it. There is a problem, and I am it.

What is IN My Control

  • my self-care
    • I get my hair done
    • Massages
    • Tattoos
    • Alone time at night
    • Reading
  • asking for help
    • Reaching out to family
    • Communicating with my husband and being vulnerable
    • Therapy
  • my decision
  • the friends I have
    • I don’t do this one well
  • my actions
    • I have apologized to those I need to
    • Forgiven most people, I need to
    • The Lord has made me HYPER aware
  • my boundaries
    • Hahahahaha
  • my thoughts
    • Oohhh…
  • my attitude
    • Well…
  • my words
    • Uhmmm…
  • what I say
    • Learning how to use them
    • Learning how to RESTRAIN from using them
    • Work in progress

OUT of My Control

  • who likes me
  • past mistakes
  • other’s feelings
  • what others think
  • other’s apologizing to me
  • other’s actions
  • what other people believe
  • weather
  • who loves me
  • other people’s time
  • someone else’s distraction

What is on Your List?

My struggle in the “out of my control” list is who likes me (why does this bother me so badly), past mistakes (I can’t forget), what others think of me, others’ actions, what other people believe, and who loves me. Those are my Achilles heel problems. What is on your list?

If you are learning what is yours to carry and what is not, Circle of Hope Counseling Services, LLC offers therapy for Kentucky residents who want support with boundaries, anxiety, emotional healing, and self-awareness.

Reflection Disclaimer: This post is educational and inspirational only. It is not therapy, clinical advice, crisis care, medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Reading this blog does not create a therapist-client relationship with Barefoot Faith Journey or Circle of Hope Counseling Services, LLC.

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I’m Brandi Crum, LMFT, writer, therapist, wife, mom, and the voice behind Barefoot Faith Journey. This space began as an adoption and family blog and has grown into a faith-filled place for psychoeducation, grief support, mental health awareness, and honest hope for life’s hard places. My writing is educational and inspirational only and is not therapy or a substitute for professional care. Kentucky residents seeking counseling can learn more through Circle of Hope Counseling Services.

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